If You See Something, Say Something-What Holds Us Back From Doing This?

The recent and horrific stories regarding the unchecked sexual abuse of young women under the care of Dr. Larry Nassar and the thirteen children abused and held captive by their parents are just two examples that screamed something is wrong here! Something needs to be done! What is it that keeps some of us from saying, doing, or reporting something when we believe something is wrong?

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How Do You Know When You’re Done With Therapy?

When people think of therapy, they still think of years of psychoanalysis. Modern therapy has come a long way. How do you know it’s time to get off the couch?

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Video Games Fighting Stress: Illusion or Truth?

Have you ever experienced anxiety, headaches, insomnia, frequent nightmares, weakness in legs, disturbing thoughts or high heart rate? If you have at least 3 of these symptoms simultaneously, it means that you’ve been captured by stress. According to American Psychological Association survey, more than 75 % of Americans live under stress.

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What Is Schizophrenia?

“Did you know: 1 in 100 globally encounter Schizophrenia every day” Schizophrenia is a serious medical condition which affects the individual’s normality how he/she thinks, speak, feels and act. The individual who encounters schizophrenia finds difficulty in correlating the imaginary and the reality. The biggest misconception among the people, confuse schizophrenia with the split personality or multiple personality disorder actually, both are the different streams.

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5 Signs That Reveal a Psychological Problem in a Older People

That is why people in the environment of the elderly must have alerted to any symptoms that may betray a psychological problem of this type. Some of the signs that may indicate that the oldest is going through a bad situation and needs the help of a psychiatrist are:

Lack of hygiene: when a person stops taking care of themselves, as long as they do not have physical limitations, it is a sign of apathy and possible depressed process.

Unusual, extreme and prolonged tiredness: it is one of the most common symptoms of depression, as well as the usual muscular and headaches.

Lack of interest and apathy: when a person shows little interest in what was previously passionate and has no new hobbies, it is possible that he is going through a depressed process.

Timing imbalances: Although somnolence may arise for many reasons, one of them is nighttime insomnia derived from an anxiety process.

Weight changes: Whether the person earned a lot of weight or if he loses it in a short time, it can indicate that he is going through a bad emotional moment.

How to encourage the elderly to see a psychologist

One of the great barriers that separate the older adult from the psychologist is the stigma created around this health professional that many still think that only serves crazy people. A myth still rooted in many sectors of our society, and sometimes even more among the elderly.

There is still a lot of rejection at the time of going to the psychiatrist's office because it is assumed as a sign of weakness; There are many cases, especially among older men, who prefer to have a bad time and hide it, than to recognize that they have a problem and need help.

The worst of this situation is that a psychological assistance in very few cases results to “cure without drugs”. On the contrary, it gets worse and can become a chronic disease that needs to be treated with drugs.

Therefore, when a family member, friend or caregiver is aware that the older person needs psychological therapy, but is the recipient to take the step, he or she can be encouraged and helped to contact a psychologist in different ways:

  • Make him see that the psychiatrist is a health professional more as is the dentist, the physiotherapist or a nurse, and the only thing he will do is help you improve your health, and not assess or judge your situation.
  • Although the therapy will be done by himself, he can be accommodated to the first appointment to talk with the professional and tell him about his case. Taking the first step with a person you trust brings security and peace of mind.
  • It is important to erase from your mind the idea that the psychiatrist only attends to patients with serious psychological problems. For this, you can give examples of people from their environment, of any age, who have seen the need to go to solve a problem not necessarily seriously and obtaining great results. If you are aware that anyone may need therapy, it will be easier for you to absorb that he or she may need it, too.
  • If in your environment; there is a person who has gone to a psychologist, you may be asked to speak with him or even the person who companies have him on the first appointment to meet the professional. It will be easier for you to go to one that shows confidence because you have helped someone close to you than to ask for an appointment with a stranger.
  • In the case that the older one needs to go to the psychologist as a result of suffering from a disease, he can previously go to an association of patients with said pathology. There, in addition to being able to facilitate the contact of a psychologist, you can meet other people who are in your situation and who have benefited from psychological therapy.
  • The same case can be applied to caregivers or family members of a sick person who may need rest, relief or psychological advice since often they put the care of the patient before their charge rather than their own discomfort.

In all these cases, and knowing the family member or person affected by this type of warning signs, the idea is to try to approach him, speak with frankness and affection and offer your support.

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Tracing The Links To Suicide – Are You Linked In?

Recent research studies show teen suicide is on the rise due to social media bullying and isolation. Could the recent gun violence be attributed to teen mental illness? How can we lay a better foundation for our children and provide them with a more promising future? Having free mental health clinics in every city is a good start. It could be partly funded by grants, contributions, and monies from the prison system. Releasing prisoners incarcerated for minor offsets, would free up resources that could have been used for mental health system. Maybe because they get free labor and the prison system is a big business.

The new studies show the following:

  • Teens' use of electronic devices including smartphones for at least five hours daily more than doubled, from 8 percent in 2009 to 19 percent in 2015. These teens were 70 percent more likely to have suicidal thoughts or actions than those who reported one hour of daily use.
  • In 2015, 36 percent of all teens reported feeling happyly sad or foolish, or thinking about, planning or trying suicide, up from 32 percent in 2009. For girls, the rates were higher – 45 percent in 2015 versus 40 percent in 2009.
  • In 2009, 58 percent of 12th-grade girls used social media every day or nearly every day; by 2015, 87 percent used social media every day or nearly every day. They were 14 percent more likely to be depressed than those who used social media less frequently.

Other fascinating research studies I wanted to share with you and would love to receive your opinion on are from, Eleanor Nelson, about research done at the Child Emotion Lab, in Madison, WI; and a John Hopkins study, written by Sarah Knapton, Science Correspondent, in the Telegraph.

Their research shows that children of trauma and abuse have altered genes and high levels of cortisol, which leaves them in a high state of flight or fight. War veterans experience the same kind of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

The Child Emotion Lab and work conducted by Dr. Seth Pollak, Moshe Szyf, and. Dr. Pollak explains that children of abuse will end a lot of physical ailments because of the emotional trauma that they end as a child of abuse. Dr. Szyf believes our experiences in life affect our genes significantly and can alter the way our cells function without changing the DNA functions; this is called epigenetics. Epigenetics explains how identical cells, with the same DNA can turn one cell into a cell cell, and one into a cell cell, or one into a cancer cell.

Dr. Szyf conducted a study on rat pups in 2005, at McGill University, with collections, and found the rat pups had a gene that helped them manage stress, called the NR3C1 gene. The NR3C1 gene was a methylated mutated gene, made of tiny quartets of carbon and hydrogen atoms, which stick to the DNA, and derail the cellular machinery that translates genes into proteins. Dr. Pollok's staff checked the blood of children who came from occupied homes and found they had the same methylated gene. NR3C1 is the gene that codes for the hormone cortisol, which helps you in flight or fight response, when you feel threatened.

A child in an abusive situation symptoms constantly continually, so this becomes a problem when the cortisol levels stay high, leading to adult heart disease, diabetes II, auto immune diseases due to inflammation, and other diseases. Having these genes damaged due to abuse, is similar to the damage due to radiation or drug abuse on a cellular level.

Many survivors suffer with emotional, psychological, and physical ailments, another issue is mental illness, depression, and suicide. Survivors have mentioned wanting to drive into oncoming traffic or to drive off a bridge; or think of other ways to commit suicide. With the holiday's coming up, I encourage you to surround yourself with those who love and support you, not family and friends who want you to prepare the abuse never happened because it is more comfortable for them in denial.

In another study by Dr. Zachary Kaminsky, at John Hopkins University, in Baltimore, MD, they found the gene SKA2, which can predict if someone may actually take their own life. Researchers have found the gene, SKA2, in the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for controlling impulsive behavior and preventing negative thoughts. If the gene is altered, the body can not control the levels of cortisol in the system. Research shown victims had large amounts of cortisol in their system.

The blood test had a 90% accuracy rate; and a 96% accuracy rate for those who have already attempted suicide, just by looking at their SKA2 levels.

Dr. Kaminsky thought this was important in placing patients on suitcase watch, restricting drug access, equipment they might use, soldiers entering or returning from war, and what care to give.

The research was reported in the American Journal of Psychology.

With the new technology, what do you think about the progress of mental health? Do believe these studies are accurate? What can we do to improve mental health in our society?

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22 Veteran Suicides a Day – Mission 22 Cutting Edge Programs for PTSD and Traumatic Brain Injury

[Our] goal is not to medicate and mask the problems our veterans are facing but to heal them. Mission 22

This bold mission attracted me to Mission 22 when I first heard about the group.

More veterans die by suicide each year than …

More veterans die by suicide each year than the total of US military deaths in the entire Iraq war and Afghanistan war combined! This is scary. It's shocking. It's unacceptable.

Mission 22 started when a friend that co-founder Magnus Johnson served with took his own life. Magnus learned that 22 veterans a day were taking their lives and this shocked him into action. His friend and fellow former Green Beret Mike Kissel joined with him to found Mission 22. They started with a large-scale public art project in Nashville, Indiana as a way for veterans and citizens to work together to raise awareness of veteran suicides.

A National Monument

Then they asked themselves the question: If there is a national monument honoring those who died in almost every war fought for our country, why could not there be a monument to those veterans who have lost the fight after coming home by taking their own lives ?

That was born the moving large-scale monument shown in the photo above. Mission 22 says: “We honored 20 veterans who lost their lives here at home after serving our country abroad.”

Their mission has grown to include multiple ways for veterans, their families and communities to find help. Most dramatic to me are the cutting edge healing programs that are giving remarkable results. Before we look at the healing programs in more detail, let's take a look at the national problem.

Veteran and Civilian Suicides

Veterans end their own lives at a rate much higher than civilians. Among men, the risk for suicide in 2014 was 19% higher for Veterans compared with US civil adult men. And for women, the risk for suicide in 2014 was 250% higher among Veterans than US civil adult women!

The Veterans Administration is putting more resources into trying to prevent suicides, with an expanded lawsuit hotline and increased mental health counseling. Still millions of Veterans either do not visit a VA facility or are not kindly helped when they do. So the need for Mission 22 and caring groups like them.

The rate of Veteran suicides is greatest among the youngest Veterans ages 18 – 29. This is true for both male and female Veterans. However, the total number of Veteran suicides is still much larger among older Veterans, simply because there are so many more older than younger Veterans. So help is needed among all Veterans age groups.

Mission 22 Treatment Programs

Mission 22 currently has two treatment programs that focus on Traumatic Brain Injury and Post Traumatic Stress. The goal is not to cure and mask the problems our veterans are facing but to heal them. Mission 22 website

Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy

According to Mission 22: “More than 350 Veterans have reclaimed their lives” by using Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy (HBOT) in conjuction with other modalities like nutrition and medical massage.

HBOT treatment enhances the body's own healing process. People inhale 100% oxygen in a total body chamber, where the oxygen level and atmospheric pressure can be controlled for safety. HBOT has been helpful as a post-concussion treatment for football players and other athletes. The similarity with brain injuries suffered by Veterans led to the Mission 22 program.

The FDA has approved HBOT for a variety of conditions, though not yet for traumatic brain injury. However, Mission 22 has seen such good results that the group covers the cost for Veterans with Post Traumatic Stress or brain injury to go through the HBOT treatment program.

A clinical study published in the Journal of Neurotrauma in 2012 demonstrated significant benefits of HBOT for both physical and emotional issues in a group of 16 Veterans with brain injuries. * HBOT is known to help by decreasing inflammation and increasing blood flow to the brain, but there is still much more to learn about how it works.

Full Spectrum Health Center

The other cutting edge program Mission 22 uses involves bringing balance back to the body, emotions and mind. Working with the Full Spectrum Health Center in Chicago, Veterans can be treated at home where they live in the country. Based on evaluation and advanced blood testing, an individual treatment plan is developed for each Veteran to heal imbalances in their bodies and lives.

The goal of the Full Spectrum Health Center is powerful. The clinic states: “Full Spectrum Health Center for Endobiogenic Medicine (FSH) uses a new approach to heal soldiers and veterans from the inside out.”

“Our approach is to understand who you are and why you suffer with specific symptoms. based on balancing and optimizing the four keys to health: Body (hormones, nerves, brain, digestion), Mind (spirituality: a journey to inner wholeness), Diet (nutrition for your body's needs), Lifestyle (stress reduction, sleep, exercise ). ”

The Full Spectrum Health program includes plant-based therapies, pharmaceuticals if needed temporarily to help patients stabilize, self-integration work to gain more control of thoughts, feelings and actions, and pulsed electromagnetic field therapy.


Mission 22 was founded by Veterans to reduce the tragedy of Veteran suicides. They started with an emphasis on education and now coordinate their efforts with multiple groups around the country.

Mission 22 helps cover the cost for these two healing programs that help Veterans with post traumatic stress or traumatic brain injury rebuild their lives, so they are accepting donors to fund Veterans who want to go through these two programs.

* Paul G. Harch, et al. A Phase I Study of Low-Pressure Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy for Blast-induced Post-Concussion Syndrome and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Journal of Neurotrauma, January 1, 2012.

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Keeping Fit As We Age – Mentally

As we age, many of us will be concerned about the risk of deterioration in our mental faculties. In many cases, this process is by no means inevitable and something we must accept passively.

At the outside, it should be stated that this article is written based on a collision of general views and IS NOT qualified medical advice. If you have any concerns about the state of your mental abilities, you should contact a qualified medical professional for further advice and at the earliest opportunity.

What happens as we age?

Before getting into this complicated subject, it's worth clarifying that we are not discussing here clearly identifiable medical conditions. Specific conditions such as Alzheimer's or the effects of a stroke are outside the scope of what's being discussed.

This is instead about a process that for centuries people have accepted was “gently inevitable”. That is a slow deterioration in people's ability to perform dynamic and moderately complicated thought-related tasks as they age. This sometimes involves symptoms such as, a deterioration in the coherence and fluidity of conversational ability, short term memory problems and so on.

It's probably safe to assume that many of us have seen these processes at work in some older people. As we ourselves age, it's perfectly natural to start to wonder whether or not we will experience the same and if it's possible to do something to avoid such.

It is not inevitable

To begin with, it's important to remember that this process is by no means universal.

While we may all have seen older people whose mental faculties are perhaps not as sharp as they once were, we probably also know very large numbers who appear to be as mentally focused at 90 as they were at 30.

To cut directly to the chase, medical science at the moment continues to investigate the reasons why some of us appear to experience a decline in our abilities as we age, while others do not.

In some cases, there is speculation that the differences may be attributable to genetics. In others, there is increasing evidence that lifestyle choices may play a very significant role in determining how functional our mental abilities remain as we age.

There is now increasing emphasis in medical and lifestyle sciences, on trying to tap into those good practices as a way of delaying or avoiding a weakening of our mental prowess as we age.

What can be done?

Many permissions agree that there are a number of things we can do to try and keep mentally fit and active for much longer in our lives:

  • maintain an occupation or hobby that requires us to perform demanding cognitive tasks on a daily basis. That does not necessarily mean higher mathematics! For example, tasks involving repairing mechanical objects or maintaining them, can demand a lot of mental dexterity;
  • avoid emotional stress. Some authorities believe that constant psychological stresses, which continue into older age, can be extremely damaging to our mental wellbeing. Worrying excessively about things such as your retirement accommodation and our families, needs to be avoided where humanly possible;
  • it's now also widely accepted that there are links between our mental faculties and our overall physical fitness levels. If you take whatever steps are required to keep as fit as possible as you age, that may have knock-on benefit effects for your mental state too;
  • despite disputed, there is considerable opinion that eating healthily can play a role as well;
  • engaging with the outside world is also massively important. This means getting out to see people, talking to them and playing a role in face-to-face interaction. Spending many hours each day alone watching television is now widely accepted as being unhealthy for our mental capabilities overall.


There is now a wide body of opinion that suggests that for many of us, maintaining sharp metal capabilities into older age is not just a question of good or bad luck.

Regarding our mind as an invisible muscle which needs to be both fed and exercised for its good health, may be as important as having the same approach for our heart.

If you'd like to know more about some of the things you might be able to do in this area, it will be worth consulting your physician for further advice.

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Anxiety Is Best Understood Through the Fight or Flight Response


In my kinesiology practice I have treated hundreds of adults and children with anxiety.

I now view all anxiety as a fight / flight response with a background cause, such as trauma, shock or long-term stress. Fundamentally the anxious person is experiencing a lack of safety. Restoring safety is the key to resolving the problem.

This is the definition of anxiety I like best;

“Anxiety, a feeling of dread, fear, or apprehension, often with no clear justification. Anxiety will be distinguished from fear because the latter arises in response to a clear and actual danger, such as one affecting a person's physical safety.” Anxiety, by contrast , arises in response to apparently innocuous situations or is the product of subjective, internal emotional conflicts which causes not to be perceived to the person himself. , chronic, or repeating anxiety not justified in response to real-life stresses is usually regarded as a sign of an emotional disorder. persistent anxiety associated with no particular cause or mental concern is called general, or free-floating, anxiety. ” (Britannica website)

My Anxiety

I had 'free-floating' or general anxiety for years. It detected at varying levels. In my 20s I started learning to meditate, out of curiosity mostly and to see if it would help me to feel calmer. After a number of months of practice it became apparent to me just how unsettled I was. I noticed that unless I was using a meditative technique like mindfulness, to maintain a calm state, I was not calm. While meditation helped me a lot, especially in gaining an understanding of myself and how to generally maintain equilibrium, at one point I became sick of having to do it all the time. I was in my mid 20s and most people I knew did not give a fig about meditation and practiced nothing even like it, yet they were far calmer than me in general.

At one point my anxiety hit its peak and I started to get panic attacks. I was also coming in and out of depression. I had gone for counseling and psychotherapy – which was very helpful but did not really calm my body down. In spite of a regime of exercise, qigong, yoga, meditation and good food my nervous system was still very unsettled. I could not seem to bring it under control.

At one point to manage the crises I was in, I took medication for about 6 months. It got me through a rough patch but I did not like the feeling I had with it. I was groggy and sleepy and my head was not clear.

At that time I was living in Australia and I confided in a friend about my state. They said they knew someone that practiced kinesiology and that I should give it a go. In short those treatments were life changing. After the first two treatments, I felt like my whole body calmed down. I often describe it as though I was stuck in 2nd gear, driving at 80 miles an hour all the time. The kinesiology work bought me to 3rd gear and then fourth, etc. Soon without any effort at all on my part, I was just nice and calm.

Now, for anyone that is used to not feeling calm, suddenly feeling calm is dramatic and welcome. The changes I felt were so strong, I wanted to know how this was possible.

That led me to study and then practice kinesiology. The area that I am most interested in, surprise, surprise, is anxiety.

You've read the definition of anxiety above but for those who might not be clear about its effects on people, here are some of the signs and symptoms.

Some signs and symptoms of anxiety?

Here is what happens to your body if you feel anxious;

– Increased heart rate

– Shallow, fast breathing

– Stomach tension

– Bowel trouble

– Light headedness

– Dry mouth

– Poor sleep

At a psychological level;

– Poor concentration

– feeling irritable and depressed

– Loss of self-confidence and self esteem

What causes anxiety?

In my experience the most significant causes are your personal history of stress and trauma, known and unknown. Including;

– Your life experiences

– How you were brought up

– Long term stress

– Shock

– Distress / shock from ages 0 -3

The greatest changes occurred in my body, when a kinesiologist addressed very early trauma. I had almost died as a 6 month old baby from celiac's disease. The diagnosis was missed for several months and I became extremely ill. Obviously, I have no memory of this. I believe I was left with a sort of post-traumatic stress. My body was producing huge levels of adrenaline all the time. I was nervous, fidgety, I could not sit still, found it hard to focus and concentrate. I was emotionally sensitive and unsettled.

When I addressed this early trauma with kinesiology all of the background distress settled down. I became so much calmer I could hardly believe it.

So now when I work with people, I always look at their issues from this perspective. It's not always factored into the overall understanding of their problem. And even sometimes when it is, there's no solution provided.

Anxiety and the fight / flight response

I now view anxiety as a 'stuck' fight / flight response. In other words, a shock or trauma which caused the body to go into fight / flight has not yet released its hold. The part of the brain that is central to this issue is the Amygdala. Many of our automatic fear responses are controlled here. For example, it is what makes your body jump when you get a sudden fright. You can do nothing to control this type of reaction. If this area becomes overstimulated it will tend to stay this way. Triggers which are even slightly similar to those which caused the initial 'fright' will fire atappropriate times.

This is exactly the experience of anxiety. For no apparent reason you start to feel like you are in a threatening situation. And even though you know you are not, and you are telling yourself to calm down, it will not always stop. The survival brain is hugely powerful and it's trying to keep you safe. At times of anxiety it is perceiving danger and is trying to make you get away from it.

How does kinesiology help with anxiety?

Kinesiology offers a new way of using Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) techniques. TCM is all about restoring calm to the body and mind. If you've ever had a good acupuncture treatment you'll have felt your body calming down.

I use a range of techniques including acupressure formatting, NOT (Neural Organisational Technique) and meditative visualizations to restore a sense of safety to the body. Because safety is what's missing when anxiety is present.


When anxiety is present in adults or children there is an under lack of feeling safe. I believe this lack of safety comes from over stimulated fight / fight responses from previous stress or trauma.

Kinesiology is a fascinating system that allows the practitioner to bring calmness or balance to the emotional states associated with the fight / flight response. When these are addressed the person generally notices clearly calmer. As a result a whole range of physical and emotional issues can be alleviated.

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The Bad Chapter

I have worked with hundreds of people over the past 30 years who came to see me for a specific problem. What I found interesting is that many of them were carrying around a problem {rather a mindset} from years ago. I like to call this “The Bad Chapter”.

So many of us will encounter a string of bad luck or down times in our life. With prolonged exposure to these events, we begin to take on that identity. We begin to associate who we are with what we are going through. As we try to navigate our way to better times, we fall into the trap of over thinking and over talking about our problems and circumstances. And the more we do that, we begin to identify ourselves in a negative light. I have always loved the saying “Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction.” I believe this to be true.

When we talk about our problems, it is important to differentiate the problem from the person. Years ago when I was a crisis counselor for the HIV / AIDS community, I would often lecture on the importance of knowing that you are not your disease. What I loved over the course of the years was a powerful affirmation that came from this population. They came up with the phrase Person / People Living With AIDS. Or PLWA for short. They took their power back. Likewise, many years later when I went to work with women in varying stages of Breast Cancer, they too, came up with a strong affirmation. Breast Cancer Survivor. Wow! You may be diagnosed. You may be down. But, you are not out. How we view our situation has a huge impact on how it will play out. I want to say that again. How we view our situation, has a huge impact on the outcome.

You may experiencing a troubling time. You may have taken a loss. But I believe that every no, is leading us one step closer to our yes. I am realistic. There will be times where we will have to accept the inevitable. But, I refer back to mindset. A negative attitude makes a bad situation unbearable. Study after study will confirm this. Reminds me of the quote from the movie The Shawshank Redemption. “Hope is a good thing, maybe even the best of things, and good things never die.

I do not wish to minimize anyone's problems. But do yourself a favor. A bad chapter does not necessarily mean a bad book. I have spoken about this many times. There are people right now who are praying to have our problems. And yes, there will be books that end with a bad chapter. There is no way of getting around that. My thoughts on that brings me back to my death and dying work. What am I going to take when I go? My problems, or my love. Make a choice to embrace the good.

Understanding that all books will have a chapter or two {some may have many} that are not pleased. But hopefully you do not discard the book, and we keep reading until we get to brighter days.

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Overcome Annoying OCD Habits

OCD, also known as obsessive compulsive behavior, is a mental health disorder. There are many ways in which this mental health disorder displays itself. For examples, a person with OCD would be “hyper” about cleanliness; constantly cleaning and straightening up things in and around the home or he or she could obsess about facing certain things or activities in life such as going to social events, checking the mail or visiting with relatives.

The main deal with obsessive compulsive behavior is that it is constant, invasive and controlling. However, there are natural ways and medical ways in which it can be lessened; ways that make a person's life more enjoyable and happy.

One natural way is talking with someone they trust. For example, if a person knows that he or she will need to go to a social event, one that they do not want to go to, they can share this anxiety with that person and get helpful advice on what to do at the social event.

Another way to lessen OCD is to practice “mindful thinking.” Mindful thinking is when you are engaged in something you do not like, you focus on what is going on during the event. In other words, you do not focus on what can go wrong but on what you see at the event.

In addition, another way to lessen OCD is deep breathing. Deep breathing, when practiced several times during the day, when needed, can calm the mind and body down. The most effective way to do this is to take a deep breath through your nose, hold it for a few seconds and then let it out slowly through your mouth. Do this several times until you feel calm. To achieve maximum effect, breathe in slowly – for seven to ten times through your nose and exhale lower through your mouth. Soon, you will feel relieved and calm.

Keep in mind; OCD symptoms can also be lessened by talking with a mental health professional or from reading the Bible or books that offer guidelines and tips on how to overcome this mental health challenge.

OCD, like some mental health conditions, can be lessened and in some cases, can be eliminated. However, it does take time, effort, patience and a desire to feel better. Whenever possible, the source of anxiety, should be deal with; however, one should be cautious on confronting any source of anxiety.

To conclude, do not let OCD stop you from enjoying life. Try some natural solutions like deep breathing or talking with someone you trust. Life can be so enjoyable. Once you face and deal with OCD, you will see life in a new light.

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There Is No Reason To Feel Ashamed If You Have Mental And Emotional Problems

A little while ago I was talking to someone who said that one of their friends had suffered from depression in the past and, along with this, another one of their friends had recently revealed that they were not in a good way. I do not think it came as a surprise for them to hear about what their first friend had been through, but that was not the case when it came to their other friend.


The reason for this is that this friend had a good job and they appeared to have it all together. Hearing this came as a big shock to them, and sometimes they wonder how this person was able to cover up how they felt for so long.

I was not surprised by what I had heard, and there were a number of reasons for this. Over the years, I have written a lot about how the image that someone presents to the world does not always match up with what is going on within them and how shallow relationships can be.

The Result

Two people can then spend time together and they can know very little about each other. That's not to say they will not know what they have been doing, for instance; what it means is that they will not really open about how they have been feeling or what is bothering them

Each person will be playing a role and this will stop them from being able to be themselves. Creating the right impression ends up being more important than anything else, thereby stopping them from being able to truly connect to each other.

Looking Back

I know exactly what this is like as I had the need to look strong all the time and to hide how I felt. This meant that it seemed as though nothing fazed me, yet this was nothing more than an illusion.

What felt safe was hiding how I felt; if I did not do this, I believed that I would be rejected, abandoned and / or harmed. This went back to what had happened to me when I was growing up.

A New Perspective

I was carrying a lot of shame, and hiding my emotions was a way for me to try to stop people from realizing how flawed I was. I believed that if my mask dropped, so to speak, I would end up being exposed and the people in my life would end up walking away.

Part of me was not willing to go along with this and I knew that there was a way for me to change my life. I read numerous books and worked with different healers and therapists, which allowed me to see that there was nothing for me to be accused off.

Very Strange

During this time, the relationship I had with my own emotions gradually changed and I no longer wanted to play a role. What I also thought about is that there was no reason for me to feel ashamed of the mental and emotional issues that I had.

The positive feedback that I received from therapists and healers played a part in this, as did what I read in books. I went from believing that my inner experience was something to be accused off, to seeing as just part of the human experience.


If I had always felt this way, I would have been able to do something about how I felt years before. The beliefs I had about what I was going through were what had held me back, not what I was actually going through.

The beliefs I had were the result of my upbringing and the experiences I had had through my life. If I had a physical problem, I'm sure I would have let someone know about it more or less straight away and got the right help.

A New Outlook

When someone realizes that there is nothing for them to be accused of if they have mental and emotional problems, they will not need to suffer in silence. This will allow them to look for the assistance that they need.

If another person makes out there is something wrong with them, it can show that they do not feel comfortable with their own emotions. The way that they talk to themselves is then being directed outwards.

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Three Predominant Emotions and BMR Based on the Ayurvedic Body Type System

The digestive system when working in perfection is not necessarily noticed. Emotions like the digestive system when balanced are virtually absorbed without any effort. The minute that the stomach begins to bloat and fear starts to grip ones gut we become started by both our digestion and emotions. Anger can feel like emotional heartburn. Depression can feel like the gut will not move and the emotions are the cement.

We all know our unique signature emotion. Are you the one that has a hot temper? Or do feel anxious and fearful right under the surface? Is life just too heavy for you so you can not get motivated to challenge its secret code. Only you can answer where you are on the spectrum of those emotional shades.

Just like we know our emotions like our favorite old shirt we know our digestion and it's pattern. We know our eating habits and how our gut responses. The key to linking emotional pattern to digestive pattern is basal metabolic rate.

Wikipedia defines Basal metabolic rate as “Metabolism combines the processes that the body needs to function. Basal metabolic rate is the amount of energy per unit time that a person needs to keep the body functioning at rest. Some of those processes are breathing, blood circulation , controlling body temperature, cell growth, brain and nerve function, and contracting of muscles. The Basal metabolic rate (BMR) affects the rate that a person burns calories and ultimately whatever that individualains, gains, or loses weights. for about 60 to 75% of the daily calorie expenditure by individuals. It is influenced by several factors. BMR typically declines by 1-2% per decade after age 20, mostly due to loss of fat free mass although the variation between individuals is high . ”

As Wikipedia describes BMR (basal metabolic rate) looking to the last sentence in particular, “although the variation between individuals is high.” we find the key principle in Ayurveda's explanation of its body type system.

This biological factor of BMR variability is one of the main principles Ayurveda uses to describe its body type system.

Ayurveda teachings that if the person has a fast BMR they are prone to a skinny body, fast speech, fast mind and expresses fear as their primary undercoming emotion. Often fear is expressed as anxiety.

If the person has a BMR they also have a strong amount of HCL (hydrochoric acid) and has a strong digestive system. This person's body weight stays at a medium size all their life even though they enjoy eating anything with out having digestive disorders. When they get older can get heart burn if have rich eating habits.

This person has a tendency towards irritability and even anger especially if they do not eat lunch.

The third primary type is the slow BMR that even looks at the chocolate cake and its on their hips the next morning. These folks are former to express emotions as depression, lethargy leading to obesity.

Ayurveda teachers how to pick foods and balance your emotions according to the Ayurvedic Body Type System. It is an ancient body's owner's manual.

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Sharing Problems, Seeking Guidance Make It Easier to Deal With Dual Diagnosis

Dual diagnosis is one of the most complex brain disorders. Usually a combination of psychiatric illness and substance use disorder (SUD), it is comparatively severer and more complex than either of the two disorders as it involves the interplay between two equally complex conditions. Dual diagnosis, known as co-occurring disorders in the common parlance, is characterized by errant behavior, petty criminal offsets, and fluctuating moods due to the comorbidity of SUD and mental disorder.

Depending on the kind of substance abused, users develop different combinations of coexisting disorders, such as alcoholism and depression. The repercussions of dual diagnosis are not restrained only to the individual grappling with the challenges of the disorder but usually impacts family members and friends as well.

The family of the person suffering from dual diagnosis finds itself struggling with a new challenge every now and then. These problems can include arranging a ride to the hospital in odd hours, finding funds for treatment, and dealing with his or her exaggerated and irrational hallucinations or paranoia. This could be cumbersome for the members of the family, leaving no time for recreation and rejuvenation. Most are harried and hassled, and heave a sigh of relief when it is time to send the patient to a recovery home for treatment.

Although they may not show it explicitly, family members could feel resentment and hatred towards their condition due to the patient. After all efforts, there is an increased risk that things could turn for worse, spiking the likelihood of a relapse. They feel let down by the patient, when he or she expresses no gratitude for their all help and care.

Ways to handle dual diagnosis patients in family

The risk of exacerbating the problem runs high when family and friends use violence and intimidation to control the patient. In order to nip the problem in the bud, the family should instead try the following tips:

  • Keeping control over spending : Instead of giving money to a dual diagnosis patient, which could fuel addiction, the family should appoint a caregiver to take care of his / her expenses. It is necessary to keep money away from the reach of such patients. Furthermore, with the help of a community mental health worker, counselor or therapist, a person can be dissuaded from splurging money on drugs and alcohol.
  • Dealing with agitation and paranoia: The families of people living with the co-occurring disorders must learn to deal with the most common symptoms of dual diagnosis, such as agitation, paranoia and hallucinations. In certain conditions, such as schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, the signs of an impending flare up are evident prior to the actual episode. Therefore, it is vital for the family to develop mechanisms for dealing with such episodes, such as providing medicines or taking help of a community organization or health care center. In case, there are children in the family, it is necessary to keep them out of harm's way. Such psychotic episodes can have a deaf impression on the mind of a child compared to adults.
  • Staying firm: Although people with dual diagnosis have as much right to decide their lifestyle and way of living as any other person, it is necessary for their families to stay firm and communicate clearly in case their habits are negatively affecting the members, especially children.
  • Taking professional help when required: One should not shy away from taking professional help, not just for the patient but also for himself or herself, if needed. Participating in community awareness and skill training programs related to dual diagnosis keep one abreast of the latest developments. Also, one can develop better coping mechanisms and feel more stressed out by meeting other families living with the same set of problems through such community programs. These community programs related to harm minimization strategies help people in keeping the patient and the family safe.

Progressive family members support each other

Dual diagnosis is a complex problem that requires treatment by a clinical expert in addition to the love and support of the family. In certain instances, when the condition is beyond control, the person suffering from dual diagnosis would be required to prolong his / her stay in inpatient settings.

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Bring Your Health Back to Life by Breaking the Self-Sabotage Cycle

Self-sabotage has been dubbed 'the enemy within.' I agree.

It's self-defeating behavior that we use to solve or cope with a problem that ends up causing new problems. Bigger headaches. Greater stress. More worry.


Often, we do not know we're sabotaging ourselves. We think we're doing what we need to do to get through the day or cope with an issue. We tell ourselves “we're taking care of things.” But we're not. Unwittingly, we're undering and shooting ourselves in the foot.

When it comes to our health, coffee and aspirin, skipped lunches and a drive-through dinner will make the body want to escape through wine at night.

There's no judgment here. I know you're doing your best to get through the day.

What I'd like to do is offer an alternative. One that encourages and supports you in considering another way of doing things:

· One that facilitates instead of impedes health.

· One born of wisdom rather than impulse.

· One that brings your health back to life.

Sound good?

As a busy professional woman, both your personal and professional life depends on you being in tip-top-health. Bring your health back to life – It's easier than you think!

How to Know If You're in a Self-Sabotage Cycle

So, how do you know if you're in a self-sabotaging cycle?

According to Psychology Today, “Behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems and interferees with long-standing goals.”

That makes it easy, then, to decide if what you're doing is self-sabotaging.

Questions to ask:

1. Are my food choices interfering with my ability to feel great through the day?

2. Are putting my own needs last diminishing my effectiveness?

3. Is my procrastinating about my health and wellbeing hurting my long-term goals?

If the answer is 'yes' and you do it repeatedly, then you're in a self-sabotaging cycle.

Why Is the Self-Sabotage Cycle Such a Problem?

Because it's like the Lay's potato chip advertising slogan: “Betcha can not eat just one!”

One potato chip leads to a grateful and the next thing you know you've eaten the entire bag for dinner. With French Onion dip!

That's not healthy.

Your success as a busy professional woman lies in healthy habits. Self-sabotaging behaviors undersamine your ability to achieve long-term goals.

Five Steps to End the Self-Sabotage Cycle Once and for All

Step One: Become aware of what you're saying about yourself.

What do you hear yourself saying inside, mumbling to yourself outside, or speaking to others? Is it positive or negative? Are you appreciating or putting yourself down?

Whenever you hear yourself say something negative replace it with something positive. I have a client who says, “Cancel that!” Find a way to state every thought as a positive. Believe in your value, and choose self-encouraging words and actions.

Step Two: Set your daily intention.

Each morning, look in the mirror and state out loud your intention for the day. Just as you set your car's GPS with a destination before driving, so, too, it's vital that you set your mind's daily destination with a positive intention.

Step Three: Reward yourself.

When you reach your goal, reward yourself. No, not with food. Instead, do something positive for yourself that lifts your spirit.

Why? Because doing so reinforces the desired behavior and stops the self-sabotage cycle.

Step Four: Rinse and repeat.

Notice your talk, replace it with something positive, set your daily intention, and reward yourself when you reach your goal. That's it.

There's a phrase, “what gets attention, gets repeated” that works here. Give attention to the positive and repeat it.

Step Five: Self-love.

As you move away from the self-sabotage cycle, you'll find yourself naturally caring for and taking better care of yourself. Although self-love may feel and be new to you, as you bring your health back to life, you'll find it becomes quite natural.

Once the cycle breaks, you'll find self-love empowering. Self-love is the place where your happiness resides. Where health and wellness reign. It's a place where you sparkle.

As busy professional women, we do not always know we're sabotaging ourselves. Unwittingly, we shoot ourselves in the foot and wonder why our health is declining. Stop the self-sabotage cycle, once and for all, and bring your health back to life. These five steps will help you make conscious, purposeful, healthy choices. It's easier than you think!

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