It’s the Little Things

The facts and figures are in, and I personally do not like the results. According to the World Health Organization (WHO) in a recently published report from Geneva, twenty-five percent of the world's population “will be affected by mental or neurological disorders at some point in their lives”. Already, my heart aches, because this gigantic figure, some 450 million individual human beings, presents so much suffering and turmoil, and because mental illness, therefore, is one of the most common causes of “ill-health and disability worldwide”. You want to know what's possibly even worse? In the same document, WHO reports that, although there is available treatment, it is not consistent globally, and sixty-six percent of people with a diagnosed mental condition never seek help from a health professional.

Yes, you read that correctly. One in four people across this planet planet suffers from mental illness, and of that massive sum, almost two of three never get help.

I have suffered for many years from depression and know well the type of pain that goes silently disregarded. It's only been in recent years that I have felt comfortable opening up about my condition and how it affects me, and the reasons for this are much the same as why people do not ask for medical help (or any) for their mental illness in general. With so much neglect, shame, and discrimination in the mix, it's no wonder people choose to hurt quietly, but the madness must end.

If you or someone you know are in the grips of depression, anxiety, or another mental disorder, the above statistics by themselves demonstrate that you are not alone. There are many others struggling with their condition as well, and who also struggle to seek help or care for themselves properly because of the social stigma attached to mental illness.

I found my inner strength when, all of a sudden, one day a dear friend came to my home and collapsed on my shoulder. She was weeping profusely, and, based on what she began to tell me, I suspected right away that she, too, was suffering from depression. I related my own experience to her, and that day I was able to tell someone that I care about that there was nothing to be accused of, and brave her the number to a therapist's office. From that day on, I've been doing outreach work to benefit others with mental illness.

What I've learned through the years, as the title says, is that it's the little things. Mental illness, including depression, can feel like a giant, crushing weight, but there are little things to go along with the big things, such as seeking professional help and staying on a prescribed course of medication, that can help us feel whole and calm .

Little Thing Number One: Self-Care

Self-care is an umbrella term for many activities and behaviors that a person can engage in to help alleviate their symptoms, even just momentarily. What constituents as self-care is up to the individual, but, for many, self-care can include taking a nice, warm shower with a luxurious soap and feeling clean. Hygiene can be troublesome for people who are at a low point, so just this simple act, or painting your fingernails, or styling your hair, can make a difference in your overall mood. Self-care can also be something as simple or mundane as curling up with a good book, or watching an enjoyable film or program on a streaming service. Engaging in self-care means just that, taking care of yourself, however you feel the need to do so.

Little Thing Number Two: Reach Out to Others

This does not mean that you need to jump into volunteer work, although that is admirable and something you should pursue if it's in your heart. Reaching out to others just means taking a big step and opening a channel of communication with someone else. At our low points, we may tend to isolate ourselves, and this can be harmful. If a phone call feels like it's too much, try a text message, or even an email. Snail mail is less immediate, but some people feel like it has an added personal touch. It's important that you reach out to someone that you trust and who makes you feel safe, remember that they should be a good listener, but they can never be a “fixer”.

Little Thing Number Three: Support Your Health

When in the throes of mental distress, it is far too easy to forget our bodily health. For me, when I suffer from a depressive episode, it becomes almost impossible for me to get rest, and I lie awake all night. Sleep is vital to your health and well-being, and if you, like me, suffer from insomnia related to depression or other illness, it's worth mentioning to your physician or therapist. They'll often have tips relevant to you and your personal care needs. Others often skim meals when they feel down, but of course maintaining proper nutrition is also of utmost importance. The chemistry of your mind depends on having proper rest, nutrition, and hydration in order to work along your medication and other forms of therapy.

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Brighten Your Day With Turquoise to Relieve Mental Illness Symptoms

Do you suffer from a mental illness and do not know how to get through your day because of the stress it causes?

My angels wave me a mission to speak out about mental illness. In doing so theyave me a message that if someone wears or uses turquoise in their daily lives it will soothe them and get them through their day.

Depression, Anxiety, OCD, all mental illnesses are usually ignored by sufferers and their family or friends. Many think it is a stigma to acknowledge it. Too many people frown down on us because they do not understand the illness. If you do not suffer from any mental illness symptoms you can not begin to know what we go through. It has a lot to do with us functioning overall. What most people do not realize is we have a lifelong diagnosis. We can take medication and take care of ourselves, but our illness might never go away. It's always lingering waiting for that right moment to come back to the surface.

Being depressed is very stressful. People are afraid to admit it because they do not want others to think badly of them. The fact is, with all the turmoil in the world today, a lot more people are becoming depressed. There is so much unemployment in the United States, which can cause a domino effect in our lives. A big issue is people losing their homes and some ending up homeless. This causes people to feel like nothing will ever get better.

I have firsthand knowledge and experience with this lingering illness. It is tough living with depression and anxiety. It is a feeling of being stuck and having no direction in life. For the longest time I never wanted or was capable of doing much physically, so I mostly watched TV. I was hospitalized 2 times for suicidal thoughts and in 2014 actually made an attempt. I felt like a wall was up and it was not me going through the actions. I knew it was wrong but could not control myself. My angels have been forefront in my life and orchestrated the event in a way to help me get on the right track and get more outpatient help. I'm not ashamed of having a mental illness. My spirituality is part of what got me through this last year.

Here are some symptoms that are overlooked as signs of a mental illness that we should all be aware of.

• A constant sad feeling

• Physical pain for no reason

• Chronic physical illness

• Extreme exhaustion

• Anxiety with shaking, headaches, increased heart rate, chronic belly ache and nausea.

• Depression makes us not care

• Drug or alcohol abuse

It is important to take care of yourself. You must “put the oxygen mask on first” before you can help others. Things can get better, even though the illness may never go away entirely. Having healthy mental health is like a muscle. The more we work it, the stronger it becomes. Some ways we can help ourselves are to follow a natural diet and have a fitness routine. Find something that interests us and follow through with it. For example, make jigsaw puzzles, reading self-help and inspirational books, watching your favorite TV programs. Try to get out into the sun for at least 10 minutes a day.

Having belief in yourself is a big step in healing.

My message is “Brighter Your Day With Turquoise”. My angels cave me this message to share because turquoise is considered to have a calming nature.

The meaning of the color turquoise is open communication and clarity of thought. It helps to open the lines of communication between the heart and the spoken word. It presents as a friendly and happy color enjoying life. In color psychology, turquoise controls and heals the emotions creating emotional balance and stability. This is a color that rejuvenates our spirits during times of mental stress and tiredness, alleviating feelings of loneliness. You only have to focus on the color turquoise, whether on a wall or clothing and you feel instant calm and gentle invigoration, ready to face the world again!

Read more about The Color Turquoise at

When we have a mental illness it is sometimes hard to get through our days. We look for other ways to calm us and using turquoise is another way that can help. We can wear a turquoise shirt or outfit, even a hat or headband. We can paint our walls turquoise and accent them with scenery photos that have turquoise accents.

Other ways to use turquoise for calming:

* Wear turquoise jewelry or carry turquoise gemstones in your pocket

* Write positive affirmations on turquoise color paper and post them through the house or place of employment. It can be as simple as “I AM HAPPY” or “I AM CALM”

* If you are a plant lover you can use turquoise flower pots to brighten a room.

* Artificial flowers

* Hang turquoise towels and shower curtains

* Sheets, blankets and bedspreads

* Turquoise color Vision Board with pictures of things that make you happy. Place it where you will see it often

Let's support people with depression and anxiety. It is OK to acknowledge your suffering and being depressed. By doing so, it is a stepping stone to a journey of healing and leading a happier, more interactive and fulfilled life.

My vision is to have drop in facilities for people to go to and just relax and learn some coping skills. I learned a lot in outpatient programs after my hospitalizations. It is hard to get into these programs so I am going to learn about having a non-profit organization to offer these types of places through the United States.

Remember to have faith and know you can always pull through anything!

Love and Blessings, Catherine

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Borderline Personality Disorder and Rage

If you've been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, there is a good chance you have experienced more than your share of Borderline rage. What exactly is Borderline rage? It is intense anger that is directed outward toward another thing or person. Sometimes it is directed inward and will manifest in self-abusive behavior such as cutting. Most often Borderline rage is directed at the person you care most about, the person you want most to love you. This sets up an almost endless tug of war between the person diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and their loved ones. In some cases, Borderline rage can be directed at anyone in the room. Any convenient target, that is. These bouts of intension anger are quite often sparked by the person's desire to be close to their loved one but being afraid to trust them enough to allow them close enough to care and then to reject them.

Where does it come from?

Borderline rage isoted in abandonment issues typically from preverbal times in a child's life. Because the child has no language the hurt is deep and often inaccessible except through therapy. Borderline rage will often come boiling to the surface in the most seeming of innocent exchanges. In my case, I could go from zero to nuclear in a matter of minutes when provoked. I, like most of the people who cared about me, was almost always taken by surprise because I simply did not know what caused it to bubble up and ignite into a frenzied explosion.

I learned in therapy that my rage was deeply housed in having been abandoned as a young baby (at only six months of age). It was further compounded by growing up with a father who had his own rage issues but never learned how to properly express his anger so it was bottled up deep inside him and would come spilling out at appropriate times.

I firmly believe that people with Borderline Personality Disorder are made, they are not born that way. You learn what you live and in my case, my father was a role model extraordinaire. My father never told me he loved me until I was 28 years old and had made a very serious suicide attempt. His behavior was further compounded after I married my husband, a man who refused to sever his emotional ties with his first wife and who made it very clear that he wanted children and lots of them. I lived all the years of my marriage feeling like his concubine as I raised his four children with little help from him. I began to simmer until the lid jumped right off the top of the pot. I never knew if and / or when he might abandon me to return to his earlier relationship with his ex-wife. It put me in a constant state of anxiety and turmoil. I learned that whenever I would try to become close to another person they would betray me in some fashion that telling me that I was utterly unlovable.

Who can possibly love me?

People with Borderline Personality Disorder find it almost impossible to believe that someone can love them for who they are because, after all, they often do not have any sense of who they are to begin with. When they find someone who says they love them, they will test them over and over again in order to get them to prove their love. In essence, they bite the hand that feeds them. In this fashion, they set the stage for the other person to abandon them and repeat the old pattern all over again in an almost never-ending cycle.

When the person with Borderline Personality Disorder begins to learn, understand and believe through therapy that their own cognitive distortions about the nature of their relationships is what keeps them stuck in this endless cycle, they can begin to approach their relationships differently. They can learn to stop being angry and full of rage at the entire world at large and renegotiate their closest relationships so they can enjoy them.

It can be very tricky to learn to be a different person. It starts with introspection. Introspection (which is done through therapy, leads to insight and insight enable change. The person with Borderline Personality Therapy can learn to recognize their triggers and figure out new ways to respond to them. “had cancer in my soul” but after years and years of therapy that cancer is now in remission. be ever-vigilant so as not to slip back into old behavior patterns.

Borderline rage is driven by fear and anxiety

When you actually sit down and think about it, borderline rage is driven by fear and anxiety. Fear and anxiety about being abandoned by those we love. Fear and anxiety about being hurt again. Fear and anxiety about not being able to control one's own environment and the relationshipships in which we are engaged.

Learning how to recognize the triggers and set up new copying patterns is key. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy is the best way to learn to do this.

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Play Therapy: Understanding Who, What, and Why

For adults seeking counseling, talk therapy is one of the most effective forms of treatment. Children, however, do not benefit from talk therapy and need their own type of engagement – through play. Children often have difficulty expressing and understanding their feelings, and playing provides a safe and comfortable way for children to express themselves. Even very verbally express children express themselves more fully through playing.


In a counseling office, toys, games and activities are used to represent words and play therapy clinicians are trained to engage and understand what they have difficulty saying with words. Children and therapists alike can use dolls, puppets, paints, or other toys to allow children the opportunity to work through, heal, and move past the difficult times in their lives.


As with all therapies, only a trained professional should be providing this service. Someone with the credential “Registered Play Therapist” or “RPT” has gone through additional and extensive training to become certified by the Association for Play Therapy.


Therapists have many different levels of education and training. If you're seeking a mental health professional for yourself or your child, you may want to ask the following questions to be able to determine if this is a good fit for your family:

-What was your training as a mental health professional?

-What mental health degree have you earned, and have you become licensed?

-Have you ever received formal education regarding working with children?

-Have you ever received formal education on play therapy? Are you a Registered Play Therapist?


As children grow up, they can experience difficulty with coping. This can be seen in acting out behaviors, or emotionality, or becoming withdrawn and isolated. This can be seen at home, at school, and with other children. They may exhibit concern behaviors, and some children may need more help than others to learn how to manage their feelings. Generally, if your child's teacher or pediatrician is concerned about your child, play therapy may be appropriate for your family.


It's a wonderful idea to prep your child for play therapy. You can let them know that they will be coming each week to play in the playroom with an adult that wants to help them learn how to take care of their feelings. You can reassure them that it can help children to have someone special to talk and play with.


Therapists understand that you, the parent, are the expert in regards to their child and they are simply a partner in helping your child's emotional health. It's very important to report events to the therapist directly – but please do not ask your child to report the events directly, especially if this is done as a punishment. Even if you're not sure that an event in question is pertinent to counseling, it's always a good idea to call the therapist and talk out the event.


It can be very tempting to ask your child “what they learned” immediately after session. If at all possible, please try to avoid that. Try to empathize with what it would feel like if you were asked such a question immediately after your own counseling session. Parents will always be informed by the therapist if anything came up in session relating to the child's safety or any other vital information.

It's important to respect your child's privacy – as this is the most critical way we allow our children to have authentic self-expression. Have patience and remember that progress takes time and children should be allowed to work at their pace – in order to build a secure and trusting therapeutic relationship and to ensure that goals are met.

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Healthy Living – Four Ways To Improve Your Brain Health In Two Minutes Or Less

As you go about taking steps to enhance your overall health and well-being, it is important that you do not forget to consider how brain health factors into this. Brain health is essential for maximizing your experience with life as aging ensues and can influence just about everything you do. Sadly, most people are not taking into consideration what they can be doing to ensure their brain is in a healthy working order.

Here are four steps you can take immediately to improve your mental health and reduce your risk of developing brain-related diseases …

1. Breathe Deeply. Stress is one of the biggest brain killers out there so something you need to take steps to minimize. If stress is negatively affecting your daily life, stop and take a few deep breaths through the day.

Setting besides two to three minutes every hour to practice deep breathing can go a long way towards helping you feel in control and improving your brain function.

2. Eat Some Blueberries. Next time you are reaching for a snack, why not consider a bowl of blueberries? Not only are they low in calories, but they are chock-full of antioxidants that will support healthy brain function. They may also help reduce your risk of Alzheimer's disease.

Serve them with a little low-fat Greek yogurt to make a complete meal out of it and you are set.

3. Get Rid Of The Sugar. What you do not want to be eating, on the other hand, is sugar. As much as you can steer clear of eating refined sugars and dangerous additives like high-fructose corn syrup (HFCS), do so. White refined sugar and HFCS are not only going to put you at risk for conditions such as heart disease, weight gain, and Type 2 diabetes, but it is also going to mess with your mind, reducing your focus and concentration abilities.

Lower the amount of added sugar in your diet. Be on the look out for hidden forms of sugar as they quickly creep in there.

4. Learn Something New. Finally, find something new to learn. Whether it is a new hobby such as crochet, taking dance classes, or learning a new language; spending some time doing this each week, even if just for a few minutes can help your brain stay healthy.

Keep these ideas in mind and put them into action. By doing so, you can ensure your brain stays in top shape.

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Biases Surrounding Mental Health

Biases are known to be ingrained in the human nature. Ironically, the bias starts reflecting in our approach to an individual's health, even if the sufferer is a loved one, as we give priority to physical health over mental health. Many of the biases regarding mental health are inbuilt or are passed on from one generation to another.

Social media has a reasonable role in propagating such biases. Without proper evidence, many crimes of violent nature, such as shootings, murders, etc., are often attributed to mental disorders. As indicated by Jonathan M. Metzl, MD, Ph.D., and Kenneth T. MacLeish, Ph.D., in a 2015 study published in the American Journal of Public Health, most of the mass shootings in America are attributed to mental illnesses, and are often considered the root cause of violence.

The stereotype that “all persons with mental illness are violent” add fuel to the prevailing negative mindset against mental disorders. Another deep-rooted stigma concerning mental ailments is that people with some kind of mental deformity are incapable of independent living or doing competitive work. The fact that most doctors suffering from mental disorders such as depression or anxiety do not seek help, fearing that it would hinder their professional life, points at the deep-seated bias related to mental disorders.

Whether it is schizophrenia, bipolar or depression, a common perception about these mental disorders is that they are a character flaw. Depression, for example, is seen as sign of a weak-filled spirit. Also, in many instances, it is believed that mental disorders can be set right with attitudinal changes. For example, many believe that children with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) need to be more disciplined and spanking is the best way to ensure that they behaved appropriately. Unfortunately, this tendency results in many with mental illnesses to be punished or discriminated against for no fault of their.

Implicit and explicit bias

Bias can broadly be divided into two types – implicit and explicit. It is a case of explicit bias when the individual is aware that he or she is biased against a particular person or group and uses it against a perceived threat. For example, painting all immigrants and refugees as potential sociopaths and antisocial elements is a form of explicit bias. According to Alexandra Vernntz, University of Virginia and PIM researcher, people are familiar with explicit biases, and “they are influenced by a lot of different factors, like willingness to discriminate and social desirability.”

Implicit bias is, however, more difficult to understand because an individual is unaware of its existence. It is beyond the boundaries of one's consciousness or awareness, but more likely to impact the way one behaviors with regard to those with mental health disorders. For example, people showing implicit bias tend to believe that people with mental illness are helpless and negative, and should be blamed for their wrongdoings.

Determining the impact of bias on mental health outcomes

While bias is a common occurrence with regard to mental health, discriminatory behavior because of inbuilt pretjudices could have a negative impact on the diagnoses and treatment. Past studies have indicated that many mental health professionals continue to endorse negative biases about mental illness.

Apart from the lack of empathy, a constant stigma surrounding mental disorders can result in increased anger and an unwillingness to help the patient in need. It was observed that the attitude of the health care professionals toward mentally ill patients reflected “paternalistic approaches.” While there was an element of empathy involved, in most instances it was believed that patients with mental disorders were incompetent.

Mental disorders are treatable

Whether it is a depression or an anxiety disorder or a neurodegenerative disorder, mental disorders are certainly not a character flaw. Recovery seems difficult as long as one keeps postponing the need to seek treatment. Understanding the importance of having a sound mental health can give rise to a new perspective on life that would further enhance the quality of overall health.

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Factors Linking Violent Behavior and Mental Illness

The link between mental health and violence is broadly assumed across all sections of the society. It is believed that those with mental disorders such as anxiety, depression, schizophrenia and bipolar disorder (BD) display violent behavior, with a tendency to commit serious offs, including assault, theft and homicide, among others.

A 2016 study conducted by the North Carolina State University, RTI International, Arizona State University and Duke University Medical Center on the victimization of people with mental illnesses revealed that violence was inextricably interrelated with mental disorders.

One violent event leads to 39 other additional effects

During the course of the study, 3,473 responses answered questions related to violence and victimization. The study involved addressing the following two fundamental questions:

  • If someone is victimized, is he or she more likely to become violent?
  • If someone is violent, is he or she more likely to be victimized?

According to Richard Van Dorn, lead author of the study, “The answer is yes, to both questions.” This implies that the vicious cycle of violence and victimization extended beyond one random incident. The cascading impact of violence was more substantial in people with substance use disorder. For example, drug abuse was found to be associated with committing violence, while alcohol abuse was a leading indicator of being victimized.

Apart from violence and victimization, the study also highlighted that affective symptoms such as anxiety, depression, etc., were closely linked to violence. As explained by Sarah Desmarais, an associate professor of psychology at NC State and co-author of the paper, “The more pronounced affective symptoms were, the more likely someone was to both commit violence and be a victim of violence.”

Even one violent incident involving a mentally ill can be disastrous, owing to the prevailing bias and misconception in the society. Whether a victim or a perpetrator, the price is often paid by the mentally ill. According to the researchers, even a single event of victimization was responsible for causing seven other effects, such as psychological symptoms, homelessness, becoming perpetrators of violence, among others. These seven effects in turn triggered an additional 39 effects.

In order to prevent this vicious cycle, the study called for investment in community-based mental health treatment programs. Community-based welfare programs are more effective in decreasing violent events than waiting for patients to show up in the legal records as either victims or perpetrators of violence, said the researchers.

Help is just a call away

For most patients with mental health problems, the path to well-being and recovery begins at home. Most mental health disorders can be managed with medications, therapy and counseling. Advance in technology has given reasonable leverage to mental health treatment. Apart from the family, community health centers have till date shown noticeable efficiency in taking care of the mentally ill.

Mental health disorders can have an adverse impact on personal and professional life of an individual. Untreated mental disorders also take a toll on the health of caretakers, family members and friends. However, mental disorders are treatable and recovery is possible through evidence-based diagnosis and treatment programs. Many people with a mental health problem like anxiety or depression lead productive lives and do well in their relevant fields.

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The One Destructive Epidemic Amongst Women That You Need to Know About

There is an epidemic that is hitting our society, hard. It's been going on for years now, and it does not get the attention that it needs.

It's an epidemic that is teasing girls from their dreams, from their progress, and from their self-worth.

It's hitting our girls, our daughters, our sisters, our friends. I've seen it in Mothers, and I've seen it in wives, and I've definitely seen it in myself.

Consider the friend who refuses to come to yoga class because she feels she does not have the right body to participate, even though she would have done her a world of good, on the inside more than anything.

Think of the sister who is too embarrassed to leave the house as she has “nothing to wear”; nothing that reveals enough, is “sexy” enough, when actually, she's look great in a paper bag, and she's the most beautiful girl you know.

Reflect on the Mum who stares in the mirror with the saddest expression, as she tries to smudge out her crows' feet and hide her gray hairs, even though she should wear them like badges of honor for all she has achieved in her incredible life.

Do these sound familiar to you? Yes. Because they are real, and they are happening all over the world.

Women are feeling worth less and less and less, each and every day.

The saddest thing about this, is that these women have unique talents and abilities, and beautiful things inside of them to offer to the world – they have something special to give – but they are missing out; they are holding back; they are damaging themselves because they do not believe their physical appearance is up to scratch.

Nobody is exempt from this; we only get one shot at this life, and a lot of women are missing out on their because of this one unhealthy, destructive trait, of self-objectification.

I think it is only reasonable that before we can start helping each other out – before we can lose these shackles that have bound us for decades – that we understand what causes this unhealthy obsession with our appearance.

Here are, in my opinion and research, the top three drivers.


A lot of people think that modesty is all about what you wear, and what you look like. But we need to change that conversation from what we look like, to how it makes us feel.

Studies on the epidemic of self-objectification show us that “clothing represent an important contributor to the body and emotional experience of contemporary young women” because body-baring clothing leads to greater states of self-objectification, body shame, body dissatisfaction, and negative mood (the latest study of this kind was just published in May 2012's Sex Roles academic journal). What this tells us (and what our own experience as girls tells us too) is that when we wear clothing that is revealing, we become very self-aware of the parts that are on show. We self-objectify and are in a near-constant state of adjusting our clothing, fixingating on what we look like, and looking at other people looking at us. It's OK to like being looked at, and even to like attention from others for our looks, but if it's getting in the way of progress, happiness, and health – as so much research confirms that it is for many – we've got to move on to being more than an object to be looked at. Because we are all so much more than that.

But where do the immodest impacts come from? Like my husband always likes to remind me, nothing comes from now – it's either genetics or environment, and in the case of clothing, it's environment, and more specifically …


On every magazine cover, on every page, on every show, in every store, in every music video and at every award evening we are swamped with these overly perfected, photo-shopped images of who we think we need to be.

How is it fair to compare yourself to anyone else, let alone the media's portrait of what they think the perfect woman is? It is not.

The media preys on women like us. They know that everyone is a different shape and size, with different talents and abilities and goals and dreams and attributes, yet they choose, again and again to focus on one thing and one thing only; a woman's outward appearance, and how they think we should all look. How boring would it be if we all looked like Beyoncé? Then Beyoncé would not be special. Beyoncé has an incredible talent she offers to the world in her voice. How many magazine covers show a picture of her in the studio, mid-power-note in her voice-recording clothes? None. Because we can not buy Beyoncé's dreams, but we can buy her clothes, and her makeup, and her body, and they can prey off of our desperate desires to look more like her, not the ones to perform, or act more like her . And they know this, they know it so much, and that's why they continue to plaster famous women on magazines the way they do.

The world is fixated on our bodies, and so are we. Which leads us on to the third driver:


It's us. We, the people. We, the people and our obsession with comparing ourselves to each other, and comparing each other to another, and another to ourselves, and it all goes around in a vicious circle of comparison that takes us to a dark place of self-loathing, low self-esteem, and self-objectification.

We've heard it before, but now we need to listen: we need to stop comparing. It's not right, and it's not fair – to ourselves, and to the people we compare ours to.
We need to praise one another for our unique abilities and our special gifts, not slash each other down with visual and physical comparisons of clothing size, face symmetry and sex appeal.

Us girls, we need to have each other's backs, because a lot of the rest of the world is against us.

Beauty Redefined says this: “When we live” to be looked at, “self-conscious of our bodies, we are left with few mental and physical resources to do what can really bring happiness. , athletic performance, have lower sexual assertiveness (including the ability to say “no” when needed), and we are left unfulfilled and unhappy. , disordered eating and cosmetic surgery procedures increase, we stop raising our hands in class, and we quit practices of math and science degrees at greater rates. on to the great things we can and should be doing. Girls and women LOSE – and so do the men all around us – when we fixate on bodies. ”

Why am I so passionate about this cause? Because I have a dream that all women are confident in who they are and who they choose to be, are able to fully embrace their beautifully unique abilities, and aspire to reveal more of their true value than their bodies to the world.

Self-objectification is one of the largest obstacles in the way of achieving that dream, and raising awareness here is the first step to making it a reality.

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6 Types of Health That Make Up You Part II

“Take Control Of Your Health Naturally”

Mental Health

This topic can be a very debatable one. Metal health is defined as a level of psychological well-being, or an absence of mental illness. What does that really mean? Who defines what normal is anyway? I prefer to think of it from the positive psychology or holism perspective and define mental health as an individual's ability to enjoy life and create balance between life's activities and endeavors to achieve psychological resilience. Does not that sound much better than just absence of mental illness or normal.

I for one think that all of us have some kind of mental issues at some point in our lives. If you have not yet, just live a little. It's coming. People have placed such a stigma on the word mental health. However mental conditions are characterized by alterations in thinking mood or behavior associated with distress or impaired functioning. Life is not kind. We are all here and in it together.

People struggling with mental issues may be experiencing stress, depression, anxiety, relationship problems, grief, addictions, ADHD, mood disorders, etc. These issues are very treatable and can be welcome to live a very happy and productive life. Remember the definition I use for mental health? Mental Health – An individual's ability to enjoy life and create balance between life's activities and endeavors to achieve psychological resilience. Fabulous, right?

There are plenty of preventive measures you can take to keep your mental wellness in-tact. They include things like diet, exercise, sleep, and stress relief.

Mental wellness treatment can include:

1. Counselling

2. Natural Remedies

3. Diet and Exercise

4. Meditation

5. Medication

Your mental wellness is important and it is real. You are not crazy. It is just as important for you and your family to take care of your mental health as it is for you to take care of your physical health.

Neglected mental wellness leads to breakdowns, depression, and is quite frankly abuse to yourself and often to others.

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Borderline Personality Disorder and Transference

Nearly everyone with Borderline Personality Disorder who participates in therapy knows about the phenomenon called transference. Transference occurs when the patient's expectations, desires and feelings are put onto another person, usually the therapist. The types of transference issues the patient brings to their therapy will often be representative of issues which occurred in childhood and which have remained unresolved.

Some history about transference
Sigmund Freud the most famous psychotherapist of all writers about transference in one of his early seminal works called Hysteria.He considered it to be an extremely important aspect of psychoanalysis because it revealed hidden parts of the patient. He came to this idea because he was to notice the many complex and usually unconscious feelings many of his patients were having.

Although many people on their way to a BPD recovery will certainly experience transference issues, not all do. Experiencing transference is not indicative of anything serious being wrong with the person with Borderline Personality Disorder, it is merely an occurrence which happens naturally during the therapeutic process and one should not be alarmed by it. A skillful and well-trained therapist will know how to handle it.

Different Kinds of Transference
One of the most common types of transference is a maternal transference. This occurs when the patient has unresolved issues with their mother, either a biological mother or an adoptive mother. This transference can be one of nurturing feelings of full ambivalence and anger.

Paternal transference occurs when the patient looks at the therapist as a father figure. The patient may want to receive advice and protection from the therapist who she or he sees as all powerful and very wise.

Sometimes the patient will experience sibling transference with the therapist during which they have had strong, oftentimes unhealthy bonds with their siblings when relationships with the parents were extremely lacking or highly dysfunctional.

Transference does not only occur during therapy although it is more likely to occur in that setting. It can occur in a workplace situation when a person is dealing with a co-worker who may remind them of a sibling for example. The worker may give this co-worker extra leeway when it comes to deadlines because their sibling was always late and they have empathy for the sibling. Or a person may have had a spouse who cheated on them and so every new relationship following carries the baggage of the first and is tainted by the transference of anger and resentment to the previous spouse.

Transference is not always only positive or negative. Negative as well as positive transference can be beneficial to the therapeutic relationship as long as it is handled skilfully by the therapist.

How does transference affect the person with Borderline Personality Disorder?
Transference when not deal with properly can lead the person with Borderline Personality Disorder to engage in other types of maladaptive behavior like cutting, drug use or excessive shopping or gambling. These type of self-injurious behaviors can have devastating consequences.

Transference helps the therapist help his or her patient because it sheds light on what issues need to be addressed during therapy. Most therapists see it as a tool to help them understand their patient's repressed feelings and unconscious desires and / or fears. Once these issues and / or fears begin to be addressed the healing can start to occur.

Transference should not be confused with projection
Projection is a common defense mechanism many people use when trying to cope with emotions or feelings that they find difficult to face head on. An example would be a situation in which you take an almost instantaneous dislike to someone you have only just met. This may be because they remind you of your sister with what you have recently had a big argument. Another example of projection is a person who accuses another person of stealing from them because they themselves have been shoplifting.

I firmly believe that the therapy itself is not what heals the patient but rather it is the relationship between the patient and the therapist who heals. That relationship happens because of transference.

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How To Stop Having Bad Dreams And Mental Illnesses

The scientific method of dream interpretation discovered by Carl Jung and simplified by me managed to prove to the world the existence of God and Satan and clarify various religious mysteries, including giving us explanations about the formation of mental illnesses.

We believe that God exaggerates because we are considered to be sinners from the beginning of our existence, even though we did not do anything against anyone. We believe that sinners are only those who are betrayers, prostitutes, rapists, murderers, or thieves.

However, the truth is that we are in fact demons with a tiny human conscience. The fact that we will commit sins is obvious, since we are absurd and evil. This is why we are considered to be sinners from birth.

Now that you know that human beings are in fact demons who must become really human thanks to a deep process of transformation, you can understand that your dreams usually are bad, dangerous, and unpleasant because they reflect your absurdity.

You have bad dreams in order to stop being indent to the dangers that are threatening your mental stability.

You have to understand how absurd and evil you are in order to you stop making mistakes and become a better person.

You can not stop having bad dreams without understanding their messages and changing your attitude.

When you will stop making mistakes, you will stop having nightmares.

Every dream gives you many different messages, but the main meaning of every bad dream is the fact that you are making dangerous mistakes and you must be alarmed.

God sends you bad dreams to make you stop being different to your mental health and your future.

The fact that you have inherited a satanic anti-conscience is a tragedy that marks your life with the main necessity to eliminate your evil self. You can not be indignant to this necessity.

You must be only the human being contained into your human conscience, which was created by God thanks to the development of one and a half of your psychological functions based on human standards.

You believe that you are the demon that lives in your brain because you can not see the difference between its thoughts and the thoughts that come from your human conscience. However, this demon works against you because it wants to destroy your human side. It pretends to help you have advantages in life, whereas it makes you have the wrong attitude and make numerous mistakes.

Bad dreams show you these mistakes in order to help you stop doing what is bad for you. These dreams have a very unpleasant effect because you must differentiate yourself from the demon and disagree with its absurd and evil suggestions.

Therefore, instead of trying to stop having bad dreams without understanding their messages, you must translate their meaning according to the scientific method of dream interpretation and follow God's guidance.

Now that the satanic origin of the human conscience was discovered you could not be indignant to the dangers that are threatening your mental stability and your life.

Now you must take the existence of your anti-conscience into consideration and always remember that you are induced to be evil, which is very bad for you.

You may seem to be able to do what you want in the beginning of your attempts, but you can not be absurd and cause abnormalities in your environment without facing the consequences of your mistakes at a certain point, in a way or another.

This means that you have to recognize the bitter truth and do everything you can to eliminate your satanic anti-conscience before it will manage to destroy your tiny conscience. Now you can not be unconsequential like your ignorant ancestors.

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5 Types of Fidgets for Children With ADHD

The fidget toys are great for a variety of reasons. One of the major reasons is to help children with ADHD focus better. They are designed to match the different sensory needs, such as the calming or tactile toys. Here are five types of fidget toys:


A common issue with children that have ADHD is not being able to settle. This means that they are less able to stay focused on something that is taking place in front of them. Fidget toys of this nature are intended to mold, twist or bend into different shapes. Other items that can be a calming influence include a weighed lap pad, a coiled bracelet, plastic nuts and bolts, or a fuzzy pipe cleaner.


Many children with ADHD benefit from handling something that has a light, color, or noise to help with staying focused. A great toy to give the desired stimulation includes colored puzzles that easily snap together, pull apart, bend or twist. Other options include the color-changing light-up balls and spinning tops.

This type of toy may be a bit disruptive for the classroom environment, so its use may be limited to time in the home. It is certain to help a child stay focused while listening to an audio book or similar activity.


The chewy style of toy can help overcome chewing or biting related issues. They are made in safe FDA-approved materials that are free from BPA, lead, phthalates and heavy metals. This is a great way to keep the mouth occupied while still being quite socially appropriate when outside the home. It stops inappropriate chewing that can lead to biting or sucking on fingers, hair, sleeves, nails, or a pencil. Other options include using stylish distractions like silicone jewelry or pencil toppers. Also, the use of gum is the less embarrassing option for the older child or adult.


The resistance type of toy is great for the children that are more capable to focus when their hands are kept busy. A simple solution for this is therapeutic putty. This is a great toy for squeezing, pulling or pushing. Other objects of this type include magnetic balls, squishy toys, stress balls, and kneaded erasers.


A further type of toy to help with ADHD is the tactile toys. They are useful for the children that need to be touching something to be able to focus. They have different textures and vary from scratchy, slimy, gooey and sticky. Other options include Velcro strips, rubbery squeeze, kinetic sand, and play foam.

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The Origin Of Every Mental Illness

You have to find out the meaning of life because you need this important information in order to understand what you must look for when you think, in order to solve your problems, and in order to make the right decisions.

If you do not know the meaning of life you do not know what to desire, or how to achieve your goals.

Since you have a conscience, you can think. However, you also have an anti-conscience, which can think too, but is a self-destructive primitive conscience that thinks in a very low conscious level. All its thoughts end up in terror and despair.

So, you have a terrible enemy in your brain that does not let you respect the rules of logical thinking, and distorts the meaning of everything through ilogical thoughts that have a logical appearance. These thoughts block logical thinking and generate mental health problems because they lead to craziness.

This fact is clearly revealed in your dreams. Now that the dream language was completely comprehended thanks to Carl Jung's discoveries and my discoveries after following his steps you can have the information you need.

God shows you the meaning of life in your dreams, and He gives you many explanations about your mental health problems. You have an alternative that humanity could not have before my simplifications and clarifications because someone had to discover the existence of the anti-conscience in order to completely understand the meaning of the dream language.

Now you can see your reality as it really is. So, you can understand that you make many logical mistakes because you are misled by your satanic anti-conscience.

This is an incomplete verification, but since you are in danger, you will be in a better position if you will protect yourself instead of disregarding the bitter truth.

Many people believe that mental illness can be justified based on simplistic explanations. They do not believe that a mental illness is a real disease that destroys the person's capacity to think logically, and they disregard the fact that many unbearable symptoms accompaniment a mental illness.

However, mental illnesses are real diseases, and they are worse than physical diseases.

Your dreams show you the truth about your mind and your behavior. You have the impression that you are a reasonable person because you do not pay attention to your mistakes.

Dreams work like an X-ray that shows you what is happening in your brain with precision. Therefore, through dream translation you can understand the origin of every mental health problem.

Most people indiscriminately let their anti-conscience destroy their conscience because they do not want to offer resistance to the impositions of their wild conscience and to the impositions of the hypocritical world.

Now that the existence of the anti-conscience was discovered, you must change your attitude and stop repeating the mistakes of previous generations.

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The $64 Million Dollar BPD Question: Who Am I?

If you have BPD chances are you wrestle with this question a lot. Figuring out who you are can be a major hurdle for many people if they have BPD or not. But for those of us with BPD, this is something that literally quite often stops us right in our tracks. I say all this while knowing full well that a true BPD recovery depends on knowing who you are. In my opinion, people who do not have a good handle on who they are people pleasers and drift along aimlessly through life. When I used to think about who I was and try to figure it out I always used to get tripped up by this, would get lost in a circle of existential thinking about such things as “What is my purpose in life?” “Where am I going?” and “What is the role of God play in this mess?”

Because humans are highly social creatures, we tend to care an awful lot about the people around us and what they think about us. Many of us allow these thoughts to completely dictate our actions and feelings. Figuring out who we are is difficult at best.We do not want to offend anyone or cause them to not like us so it is easier to live in the shadows and not assert ourselves.

Why is it so difficult to see the bigger picture?
The human brain is programmed to see things in certain ways so as to make sense of the world in which we live. This is why people have both physical and emotional blind spots. If you are seeing something and you're looking at your blind spot, your brain is programmed to fill in the blanks and put order into that blank space. This happens outside our field of cognition. It happens automatically without us even being aware it is going on. In the same way, the human brain is programmed to perceive patterns even where they do not exist. This causes people to infer certain meanings with regard to completely random events. So, we see patterns in such things as sports statistics even though a football player's ability to kick a field goal though based on skill is not based in probability. What does this mean? It means, for the in general, most people are incapability seeing the truths about themselves without bias and without making things up about themselves. This kind of thinking is evident when you think about the way people are influenced to purchase certain products over another.Most people are totally ill-prepared to make rational judgments and choose their best behavior.

When people engage in the activity of trying to figure themselves out, they experience something called the ” measurement effect “. In one study, subjects who were asked whether or not they were likely to donate blood in the coming year turned out to be much likelier to donate blood than people who were not asked the same question. This leads one to suspect that the mere suggestion is enough to influence future behavior. Researchers concluded that people who are embarking on a journey of self-discovery were more likely to experience feelings based on the kinds of questions that they asked themselves: Am I a generous person? they might be more apt to donate more money to charity during the course of a year after asking themselves that kind of self-reaching question.

Ergo, just the act of trying to discover who you are will lead you to a defect understanding of just who you are.


Is it possible that humans, like reality, are too complicated to be truly understood by simple human brains? It is simple to make certain declarations about oneself such as “I know I like to eat Tex-Mex food” or “I am afraid of spiders.” But when it comes to the deer, more fundamental questions about who we are, that's when things get really dicey and complicated.

For me, it started with me taking an inventory of some very basic things: I am a Chinese woman. Answer number one. I am a Catholic. Answer number two. I believe in x, y and z: answers number three, four and five. I have x number of children. I was born in this place. I love to x and y. Occasionally, the picture of who I was began to take shape. The harder answers were much more difficult to come by, though. Why am I here?

It took me a long time to be able to figure that one out. The answer was that I am here because this is where I am. Why am I here, really though? I guess that for me a person's purpose in life is what they choose to make it. I do not believe that any one individual has been imbued with any great cosmic purpose. We all exist in order to bring happiness and joy to others through the sharing of experiences and the sharing of laughter.

I am a 55 year old Catholic Chinese woman who was born in Hong Kong. I love to ski and throw pots on a pottery wheel. I have three children. I believe in everyone's right to choose their own destiny and shape it as they see fit. I am against capital punishment. I am a vegetarian because I believe killing animals is cruel and unnecessary in order to survive. I believe in global warming and actively work to reduce my carbon footprint as much as possible given the confines of my life circumstances. I am apolitical and do not support any political party but believe very strongly in democracy. I enjoy reading and am committed to expanding my education through books. I dislike drinking beer and do not like to go to bars. I prefer to think as creatively as possible and strive to find solutions whenever possible. I am a strong communicator and believe that every problem can be solved with dialogue. I have created a life space for myself that is chaos free and as stress-free as possible and I relish it and am grateful for it every single day.


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5 Ayurvedic Treatments for Natural Stress Reduction

Stress is common and is something that most people experience. Some people suffer from professional stress, some from professional stress, and the most unfortunate ones, have both the kinds to deal with.

Stress if ignored can lead to serious health issues. Many people resort to medicines to get rid of stress. However, medicines come with side effects and should be avoided, as much as possible. So, what is the best way to treat stress?

Thanks to Ayurveda, you now can now use natural remedies for stress. According to Ayurveda, simple lifestyle changes can go a long way in treating stress. There are several ayurvedic treatments for stress available and some of them include:

Lead a Healthy Lifestyle

Stress as what most people think is not only a mental thing. In order to get rid of stress, you need to be mentally, emotionally, and physically sound as well.

Try to wake up early in the morning – early mornings are beautiful and you would love to take a walk outside. Seeing the beauty of nature and breathing fresh air in the morning would freshen up your mind and would fill you with positivity.

You can consider doing yoga asanas, suryanamaskara being one of them. Also, practice deep breathing.

Eat a healthy and balanced diet. It is crucial that you have a smooth bowel movement.

Avoid drinking and smoking as much as possible. If you think that by drinking alcohol, you would be forgetting about the worries in your life, you are mistaken. It is true that you would forget about them for something. However, once the effect of alcohol goes, everything would become normal.

You need to work towards finding a permanent solution and not a temporary one.

Opt for a Full Body Massage

Abhyanga is one great way to deal with stress. It is an Ayurvedic treatment where you need a full body massage. Lots of amounts of warm oil is used to massage on your body and this is very relaxing. If you can not go a full body massage, you can at least massage your neck region, feet, and hands. This would help as well.

Try to massage your neck, hands, feet, and scalp with warm oil before going to bed every day. This would give you a good night's sleep and also reduce stress.


Meditation is another great way to fight stress. You can consider joining meditation classes or even learn it yourself. Numerous videos are available on the Internet that helps you learn meditation.

Many studies around the world have proven that meditation is the best way to relieve stress. It is helps in reducing anxiety. It works by increasing the levels of serotonin that aids relaxation.

Herbal Remedies for Stress

According to Ayurveda, several herbs help relieve stress. Let's look at a few of them:

  • Brahmi: Brahmi is recommended for many ailments and it has some amazing properties. Apart from helping to relieve stress, it can actually prevent Alzheimer's and Parkinson's disease, which apparently has no treatment.
  • Ashwagandha: Ashwagandha is one of the best herbs for stress and anxiety. Ashwagandha capsules are easily available and these contain the herb in its raw form. This amazing herb has anti-inflammatory properties. It helps cure various neurological disorders as well.
  • Vacha: Having the root of his herb can reduce stress and its associated symptoms.
  • Shankhpushpi: This herb is used to cure neurological disorders apart from relieving stress and anxiety.
  • Arjuna: This herb has been used since time immemorial to cure many diseases. It keeps your heart healthy and also reduce stress.

Listen To Music

An easy way to get relieve from stress is by listening to serene music. Music has calming effects on your nervous system and hence, helps in reducing stress. Even if you were not a music fan, listening to soothing music for a few minutes would help alleviate stress. Following a mix of these ayurvedic remedies for stress would be effective.

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